A Japanese man will browse a porn DVD store, go home and masturbate all day, then walk outside and see a girl kissing me and instantly go, “This girl should be ashamed for liking sex” — it’s pure hypocrisy and insanity.
In many parts of the East, talking to a stranger is taboo and even scary.
That being said, telling me, a white guy, how people respond to me romantically when you yourself are not a white guy automatically makes your opinion have less weight than mine — this is obvious but often a forgotten point.
There are some big obstacles you’ll be faced with being a “white guy” in Asia.
Sure the whole “it’s easy to meet girls as a white guy” thing was challenged a bit, but so what? Before I make my case, I want to be very clear that I am a white guy who likes Asian girls.
I WANT the ‘white guy’ myth to be true, and obviously am not offended when people told me the myth.
In Asia, there’s a lot of shame surrounding intimacy that is so damaging and dysfunctional Many Asian girls are programmed to suppress their interest in sex and intimacy, hide it or deny it.
If they display or admit at all that they want or even like sex or touch, they risk being seen as a “slut” — in Japan they’re called a “bitch” or in China/HK, a “public toilet.” Their sense of self is at risk, and their reputation is at risk if they show an interest in sex.
Other examples include girls covering their faces after sex or kissing, admitting they really enjoy it but feel bad as if they committed a crime.
This, in my opinion, is the most challenging reality of approaching and dating Asian girls.
In the East, girls have extreme pressure to “appear” pure, clean, polite and innocent.
Between watching online porn, usually involving Japanese school girls, and playing Quake 3 Arena, sometimes I’d post on forums.
I’d browse video game forums, digg, 4chan, and many others — one thing I’d hear from time to time is that Fast forward to my first time actually going to Asia, and this “it’s easy for white guys” mantra was even said by the manager (a Japanese man) of the guest house I was going to be living in. He basically said, Two of my friends were tall, good looking and fit guys — like with abs and everything. After each night we’d all hang out in the “common room” at our guest house and talk about our night, and this was really fun because it was like a mastermind group. I was having fun and did meet a lot of awesome girls.